Quick outline
- How I wrote my vows (what helped, what flopped)
- Tiny tips that saved me
- Real vow examples by style
- Final take
The day I wrote the words
I’m Kayla, and I panicked. Not dramatic. Just honest. I stared at a blank page, then cried over a coffee. Twice. I wanted vows that felt like me—warm, a little nerdy, and not too long. Plus, I didn’t want to sound like a greeting card. I also found a little peace in a straightforward guide to writing your own wedding vows that laid out the basics without the fluff.
So I tested a few things. I used a vow template in Canva to play with layout, and I pulled ideas from a little prompt deck I bought on Etsy. I also threw my draft into Grammarly to cut fluff. The best tool, though? A voice memo. I spoke my heart like I was talking to my best friend, then wrote it down. Simple, but it worked.
What helped: writing fast, not cute. Then I tuned the lines. What flopped: chasing quotes that sounded fancy but didn’t sound like me. You know what? Plain words hold. I also skimmed some candid advice in Wedding Vows for Her: My Real Talk, My Real Vows and felt less alone.
Tiny tips that saved me
- Aim for 120–180 words. That’s about a minute.
- Break your vow into short lines. Your breath will thank you.
- Bold two or three anchor words on your card (choose, promise, home).
- Read it out loud. Twice. Then once more while walking.
- If you cry, pause. Smile. Keep going. It’s your heart; it’s fine.
Craving even more structure? These quick, practical tips for writing your own wedding vows from The Knot helped me sanity-check my draft before showtime.
Now, onto the good stuff.
Real vow examples for her (that you can actually use)
If you want even more fresh vow templates and inspiration, check out VT Vows for a deep well of ideas you can customize.
Use these as-is or tweak them. Swap names. Mix and match lines. Make it yours, or borrow the testing method I loved in I Tried, Tweaked, and Read These Wedding Vows Out Loud—Real Examples That Worked.
1) Short and sweet, but not bland
Today, I choose you, Josh.
I choose you in light and in storm.
I promise to show up, even when I’m tired.
I promise to listen, even when I’m right.
I will kiss you hello and kiss you goodnight.
You are my home, and I am your wife.
Let’s build a kind life.
2) Classic, with a modern nudge
From this day, I take you as my husband.
I will honor your heart, your mind, your dreams.
I will speak truth with grace, even when it’s hard.
I will fight fair and forgive fast.
I will keep learning how to love you well.
I will choose us, every morning and every night.
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3) Light and a little funny
I can’t promise to share my fries.
But I will share the blanket.
You open the jars; I’ll kill the spiders.
I’ll try to fold the fitted sheet. No, really.
I will laugh at your dad jokes—most of them.
Team us, always. Even during Mario Kart.
4) Faith-friendly and simple
Before God and our people, I choose you.
I will pray with you and for you.
When storms rise, I will hold your hand and hope.
I will keep my word, with God’s help.
I will love you with patience and joy, all my days.
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5) Poetic, but clear
I loved you in the quiet first.
In your steady hands. In your slow smile.
You make my chest feel like sunrise.
So I promise small things and holy ones.
To bring you water. To bring you peace.
To bring you back to you, when you forget.
6) For a blended family
I marry you, and I honor your kids.
I promise to cheer their wins and hold them in loss.
I will respect their bond with their mom.
I won’t try to replace; I will show up.
Our table will be wide. Our home will be safe.
We will grow trust, one day at a time.
7) Second wedding, soft and strong
I learned love the hard way once.
Today, I choose love the kind way.
I promise to speak plain and listen deep.
I will guard my joy and share it with you.
Time is a gift. I won’t waste ours.
8) Wife to wife
To my wife, my best friend:
I didn’t fall for you; I walked toward you.
Step by step—texts, soup, and Sunday walks.
I promise to be proud of us, out loud.
I promise to protect your soft parts.
I will celebrate your fire and keep the light on.
9) Adventure buddies
I promise to pack snacks and the spare charger.
I’ll hike with you in rain and sun.
I’ll try the route you pick, even when it’s steep.
I will rest when you say rest.
I will stop for every stray dog. Yes, every dog.
With you, the map is home.
10) From long distance to one address
We learned love across time zones and Wi-Fi.
We counted days, not miles.
I promise we will still write notes, even now.
I promise to keep dates on the calendar.
I won’t take Tuesday nights for granted.
You were worth the wait. You’re worth every day.
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11) Minimalist, one-minute vow
You’re my best friend.
I choose you.
I promise to be kind, honest, and present.
I promise to grow with you, not away from you.
I love you. I am in. All in.
12) Bilingual touch (English/Spanish)
I choose you, hoy y siempre.
I promise to love you en inglés y en español.
Tu risa es mi canción.
Seré tu casa y tu calma.
We are one team, por vida.
13) Nerdy, but warm
I promise to charge your phone and back up our pics.
I will debug fights with care and no blame.
You’re my favorite plot twist.
I’ll take turns as player one, and pass the controller.
I pick you in every timeline.
14) Cozy, homebody vows
I promise to make tea when words are hard.
I’ll save you the corner of the couch.
I’ll keep the lights warm and the door open.
I’ll dance in the kitchen, socks and all.
With you, quiet is rich.
15) Pet parents
I promise to walk the dog when it rains.
I’ll pretend the cat likes me more, even if she doesn’t.
I’ll carry treats in every coat.
Our little pack is my joy.
You, me, and the fur tornado—forever.
16) Micro wedding or courthouse
I don’t need a big room to say big words.
I choose you, here and now.
I promise to build a small, steady life.
I promise to keep our days sweet and light.
Love fits in this room, and it fits in us.
17) Gratitude to parents and friends
Today, I marry you with thanks.
To our families and our friends, thank you for your love.
I promise to honor where we came from